I debated back and forth whether I should talk about this issue or not because let's face it: I am nervous in case the person I'm talking about actually watches this video, even though multiple people have said the exact same thing to me before. But it was the only thing bouncing around in my mind, even though I have a billion other things to talk about.
I think the thing that bothered me the most about this type of response was how it made me feel ashamed of knowing so much about the flute. Hearing that a friend quit the flute--the one instrument I am the most passionate about--and dropping that on me as if I should understand felt weirdly devastating. Like I was making a big deal out of nothing because, LOL, why would anyone keep playing the flute for so long, riiiiight?
However, if there's one thing I've learned from life, it's that when you feel hurt by what someone says, there's a 99% chance that person didn't mean it that way at all and simply didn't think through how their words could be taken by you.
Always give people the benefit of the doubt. Ask them about themselves and really listen. You'll be surprised with what you learn. After talking with this lady about stuff going on in her own life, I found that she was NOT AT ALL the type of person who would intentionally hurt someone else's feelings about their career in this manner. She simply had no other way of relating and instead of simply saying she doesn't know much about the flute and asking for more information, she threw out the only flute experience she had.
It's kind of weird, but in the end, I don't blame her. Like I mentioned in this video, I'm guilty of the same thing. We all naturally think of "me, me, me," but once we stop thinking about ourselves and really think from the perspective of others, you start to see a side of people and yourself that you've never seen before.
And that's when you can really start to grow as a human being.